Monday, June 30

When Life Gets Annoying

Just this past week our garage door up and died. The morning my husband left on a week-long business trip. And as I’m standing in my garage looking at my door that is completely ajar --listening to the garage door repair man talk about door differences, tracks, springs and such -- I’m throwing a little pity party in my head. Because this minor inconvenience is not only going to cost money, it’s putting a wrench in my plans to attend one of my favorite meetings every month or so, a writer’s meeting with a group of ladies I dearly love. A truly minor annoyance.

Photo by Runar Pedersen Holkestad from Flickr.
But then I talk with a friend who has water in their basement. For the third time. In a house that has never flooded before. When I texted her this week to see how it was going, she said, “It’s been a bad week and my attitude sucks. I haven’t checked (the house) because the carpet is already ruined and it just feels a bit overwhelming.” And I agree. It’s a small struggle in the grand scheme of things, she later reminds me, but no less stressful as you walk through it.

And, finally, a dear friend's house started on fire in the attic. It's the worst place for it to begin, as it seemingly smoldered for hours before it was discovered. Her family emerged safe and sound, but they will spend the next several months living in a rental as their house is gutted, cleaned, and fixed. It's a time in life where something comes along that is completely unexpected, changing plans and uprooting a family.


And I wonder where you find yourself today, friend? Are you walking through something relatively minor but nevertheless annoying? Maybe you’re facing something bigger, something completely life-changing that you were not expecting.

Whether big or small, we all face situations everyday meant to steal our joy, our drive, or our dreams. Shaking our heads in response, grumbling under our breath (or maybe that’s just me!), or becoming annoyed with life can be common responses.

How do you overcome a poor attitude over a minor fiasco? In my case, I thought about my friend with water in the basement and how much worse that was for her to deal with, and suddenly, my garage door didn’t seem like that big of a deal.

And when I talked with my friend about her water troubles and asked how she was managing her mood, she said she reminded herself of our other friend who had just had the fire, and suddenly, the water didn’t seem too bad.

And when I’ve talked with my friend who just had the fire, now living in a hotel with her family while their house is being fixed, she talked of others whose life situations are far worse than theirs.

Remembering who in this world may have it just a little bit worse than I do can do wonders for my mood. The reminder of all I do have puts things in perspective once again.


Because the truth is, there will always be something going on, struggles we face that can make life seem annoying. But how I choose to look at it can make all the difference.

Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death…”
This is true not only by what we speak to others, but also by what we tell ourselves.

What are you choosing to see and believe about life today?





Today we are once again linking up with our friend Sybil at She Lives Free for Make A Difference Monday linkup! Check it out for more encouraging posts!

9 comments :

  1. Thanks for this great reminder! When I'm only looking inward it seems there is a lot of stress today. I hope you have a blessed (garage door issue free) day :)

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    1. Thanks Becky! Garage door is all fixed! Blessings to you too!!

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  2. Remembering who in this world has it worse than I do is exactly what I do in those moments as well! ; ) Though I'm sorry to hear about your garage door and that it went out right when your husband was leaving, I know that is never easy! Thanks for sharing the perspective that makes a difference and for linking with MADM!

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    1. Thanks for commenting Sybil!! LOVE MADM, and so thrilled to link up every week!

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  3. Choosing to remind myself that I am being refined through this process and ultimately God receives the glory! :)

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    1. Amen Stasia! That is such a good reminder too, that it's all about God receiving the glory! Bless you!

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  4. There is always someone in a bigger crisis. I try to remember that as well, Kendra. It seems like whenever my husband leaves town, I have a major crisis in the house. When he was overseas on 2 different trips, our basement flooded and the kitchen sink broke, leaking water throughout the kitchen and living room... I was kind of crazy through both of those instances :). Sorry to hear about your garage door. Regardless of what our friends are going through, these stresses still get to us.

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    1. I know right?! It's true, it seems like these things happen when my husbands gone or we have something else happening! We've also learned this about times we're about to take a trip or vacation, usually some crisis will come up right before we're about to leave at my husbands work, and we have to remind ourselves that it will NOT steal our joy, or take away from our time away!

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  5. Sometimes it is good to just talk with a friend , like you did, Kendra, whether they are going through something worse than you or not. Sometimes their perspective can cheer me up and help to change my perspective. Thanks for the great post!

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